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I sometimes ask myself this question:”what kind of a leader are
you?”

You see, when most people think of the term “leader” or
“leadership”, they associate it with the term “business”.

When I personally think of the term “leadership”, I primarily
think of “parenthood”.

What kind of mother, father and what kind of a leader are you in
your own home?

Your first leadership role is in the home.

David O McKay and Harold B. Lee, both presidents of the LDS
church said one time:

“No other success in life can compensate for failure in the home”

“The most important of the Lord’s work you and I will ever do
will be within the walls of our own homes”

And I believe that.

That’s why I would like to share with you some insights on how to
use persuasion and influence to lead the right way, lead as a
spouse, lead as a parent, lead as a friend.

This article is from my friend Michael Lee, who, to celebrate his
first Father’s Day as a dad, is offering a BIG 50% half-price
discount on his remarkable ebook: “How To Be A Red Hot Persuasion
Wizard” filled with great NLP principles to help you persuade,
influence and lead with integrity.
http://www.opportunitytogrow.com/persuasion.html

Read the following article and think how you can apply it as a
father… Happy father’s day

Using Persuasion and Influence to Lead
By Michael Lee

There is a direct link between persuasion and influence, yet they
are not exactly the same thing. Persuasion happens with a person
purposely or subliminally trying to get somebody else to agree
with him or her. That is, there is obvious and deliberate effort.
On the other hand, influence happens when another person agrees
with you, not because you deliberately took the effort but
because he or she has confidence in you and believes your
opinions and suggestions are of importance. You hold a great
influence in the way other people think, probably because of your
status or your reputation.

Leaders use both persuasion and influence to manage the people
under them. It doesn’t matter if this ‘leader’ is at the near
bottom or the top part of the organizational hierarchy. As long
as there are people whose job is to follow, there are people who
lead - and the people being led expect to be given a plan toward
success. This can be more effectively done using persuasive
leadership strategies. For the person who has the influence, it
is his or her game plan or program for success that is being
sought and heeded.

It is a common misconception that only those who belong to the
senior management team can come up with a vision for the company.
In truth, studies show that rank and file members often turn to
their immediate bosses to gain a sense of direction. Thus, even
the small bosses can have influence over their staff.

When we really think about it, influence and power to lead are
not exclusive to bosses. Anybody, even the office janitor, has
the capacity to affect how the people around him or her think,
feel, and act. If others view your opinion as valuable and are
willing to stop for a while to listen to what you have to say,
then you have influence over them.

For instance, toddlers are able to influence their parents to buy
them new toys just by being cute and charming, and just by being
kids. But if they attempt to get what they want by throwing
tantrums, that’s another story. It’s called coercion and, well,
just plain brattiness.

When you ask other people to do something for you, regardless how
politely you ask, they will always ask “why.” More often than
not, they will also be wondering how they will benefit from
following you, though most wouldn’t say that out loud.

In order for you to influence people or persuade them to give
their agreement, you have to be ready to justify the reason why
what you want to happen should happen. After this, you should be
prepared to negotiate and be open to compromise.

Some people confuse influence with bribery because both involve
the offering of something to gain favor. However, it should be
made clear that bribery always involves a payback or an offer,
while influence can happen even without anything on the table.
Influence can be based on good faith alone.

To be an effective leader, not only will you need to be good at
persuading people, you must, at least, have enough charisma to
influence them without much effort. The key to good management is
to have people who will willingly listen to you and follow
(sometimes without question or hesitation). You want to lead
without having to coerce others to follow. If you have influence,
order in the ranks will not be a problem.

About the Author:
Michael Lee is the author of How to be a Red Hot Persuasion
Wizard… in 20 days or less, an ebook that reveals mind-altering
persuasion techniques on how to tremendously enhance your
relationships, and get anything you want…just like magic.
Get a sample chapter and highly-stimulating “Get What You Want”
advice at: http://www.opportunitytogrow.com/persuasion.html

In his book, Michael gives you lots of strategies you can use
today as a leader in your business and a leader in your home.
That’s seriously your most important call. Be a good father, a
great leader and use effective strategies to lead with integrity
now.

Take advantage of the BIG 50% half-price discount Mike is
offering by clicking her now
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