How to Have Great Self Confidence Using 4 Self-Esteem Boosters
Hi everybody,
I wanted to share with you an article of my friend Michael Lee
on How to HaveGreat Self Confidence Using 4 Self-Esteem
Boosters.
Michael Lee is the author of Persusion Wizard and I do
like his self-help advice to move forward in your life.
His book is based on simple but very effective NLP principles
that persuaion masters use to get things done
and influence with integrity.
Here is his article: How to Have Great Self Confidence
Using 4 Self-Esteem Boosters.
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How to Have Great Self Confidence Using 4 Self-Esteem Boosters
by Michael Lee
In today’s world, we cannot afford to be shy and reserved. We
must have great self- confidence in order achieve our goals
faster and
be successful in our pursuits.
If you want to boost your self-confidence, attract the best
opportunities, and be anything you desire to be, these great self-
confidence boosters may help.
Great Self Confidence Booster #1: Beat Shyness
Shyness prevents you from letting people see the real you,
because you’re afraid to say or do the wrong things or to appear
awkward.
The problem is, by being shy and hanging back from the rest of
the crowd, you’re already decreasing your chances for success.
Overcoming shyness doesn’t mean that you have to start trying
to dominate conversations or hog all the attention. People tend
to get irritated with others who are “attention hogs”.
Overcoming shyness starts with baby steps. Introduce yourself
to society by opening yourself to people little by little. You can
strike up conversations with your officemates. If you want
anonymity, talk to people in airports, bus terminals,
restaurants, or anywhere you can find someone who seems open
to talking.
You can also establish relationships with people on the
Internet. With the Internet being a medium where no one would
really know who you are, you can actually start your foray
out of shyness from there.
Then graduate to talking more with friends, then with
people you barely know, to people you totally don’t know.
Great Self Confidence Booster #2: Build Up Your Self-Esteem
A healthy self-esteem comes from an unconditional acceptance of
yourself. You have to learn how to love yourself for who you
are, and to be kind to yourself. You have to learn to
appreciate yourself.
Instead of picking out your weaknesses, focus on your
strengths. Instead of going through the daily cycle of beating
yourself up, set a routine where you would tell yourself
ten things you like about yourself. Do not be your own
worst enemy. Become your own best friend. Love yourself
for who you are.
Do not depend for anyone to love you first. If you think you
can wait around forever to have someone love you, then you might
get really disappointed. To be lovable, you have to love yourself.
You have to be secure in your being, in your existence. Longing
for others to love you first creates a climate of wanting and
longing that people sense. It comes across as desperation, one
of the inverses of self-confidence. Eliminate that part of you.
Practice appreciating yourself, cultivate your love for
yourself, and wean yourself from the addiction to approval
by approving of yourself first.
Great Self Confidence Booster #3: Dress for Success
We must admit that people make their conclusions based on what
they see. When they see a slob, they tend to stay away or write
you off as not worth knowing. But when they see a polished look, an
excellent look, they see success scrolling on a marquee on top
of your head. When you look like you can take care of yourself, you
send the message that you love yourself, that you are confident,
and that you have what it takes to succeed.
Great Self Confidence Booster #4: Get Out There and Just Do It
Many of us don’t think we are capable of doing the things we
want because we’re not sure about ourselves. Again, there’s the
dreaded voice of doubt. What you want is to be fearless enough so
you’ll be able to tackle all the things you’ve ever dreamed of
doing.
Fear of failure is a big factor in the crumbling of our self-
confidence, and this same fear is caused by our insistence on
focusing on the negative side of things. True, it’s never
a bad thing to be cautious whenever we’re thinking of new
ventures, adventures, and activities, but too much caution
will paralyze us, making us unable to take action.
So why not start thinking positively? Think hard about what you
want to do. Join activities that may enhance your leadership and
teamwork skills. If you stumble over any doubts or possible
problems that will come up, don’t immediately say, “I can’t do
it.” Just imagine ways that will help you work around those problems.
Don’t just second-guess your plans. Trust in your abilities and
the fact that you can bounce back from any situation. That’s
already a big bonus. An even bigger plus for you is when you actually
follow your dreams and achieve your goals, which would even make
you feel confident that you can do anything.
Learning how to have great self-confidence is simple and easy.
Accept yourself the way you are. Take care of yourself and
acknowledge the fact that you are a very special person
of great talent and ability. You can if you think you can.
Michael Lee has dramatically changed countless lives with his
mind-altering self-help articles and advice. Get FREE access to
his goldmine of self-improvement secrets at
http://www.vision-to-action.com/persuasion.html and unleash your
persuasion power now!
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